Were your parents models of great communication?

If you’re like me, that question makes me laugh. In the Doden School of NOT Communicating, there was a lot of avoidance, denial, shutting down and blowing up.  There was no modeling for how to be honest without “complaining” or hear feedback without taking it personally. I became like my father… avoid, stuff and eventually blow up! Sound familiar at all?

Understanding my attachment patterns and finding Compassionate Communication in 2000, gave me the tools I needed to build relationships with a lot more care, clarity and compassion. Relationships are complex. Our truths are often complex. Feeling safe enough to speak your truth often requires being heard, understood and supported by an expert who can hold you and the relationship you are navigating. It’s too much to do alone.

If you’d like to move beyond the blame game and family patterns, let’s start that conversation with a robust toolbox based on Relational Neuroscience and 20+ years of experience helping people have difficult conversations.