Life without your Inner Critic  

When I invested in real estate that went upside down in the economic crash of 2008,  my financial reality and humanity got shredded. I lost 2 rental houses, my own home, and my sense of being “a worthy human being.”     The words foreclosure and bankruptcy were like a chain of shame hanging around my neck for all to see.  I was in a state of complete overwhelm and the barking dogs of failure were brutal.

Even though I was equipped with many trauma-informed tools, the toxic nature of shame crushed my own ability to help myself and made it hard for me to reach out for help.  I was paralyzed with shock, shame and “alarmed aloneness” – and this is key to understanding how we can heal from impacts that shred our sense of confidence and who we are in the world. 

Internalized shame, blame and the glue of alarmed aloneness are at the heart of trauma and our inner critic. When we address alarmed aloneness and the unconscious beliefs that are linked with it, we start on a true path of liberation.  We turn barking dogs into purring pussy cats with very specific empathy driven “technology”.