Free Yourself
Calm the Inner Critic
Life without your Inner Critic
What does your inner critic sound like? Your parents, the bullies at school? Or did trauma leave painful imprints on your sense of self?
For me, when I invested in real estate that went upside down in the economic crash of 2008, my financial reality and humanity got shredded. I lost 2 rental houses, my own home, and my sense of being “a worthy human being.” The words foreclosure and bankruptcy were like a chain of shame hanging around my neck for all to see. I was in a state of complete overwhelm and the barking dogs of failure were brutal.
Even though I was equipped with many trauma-informed tools, the toxic nature of shame crushed my own ability to help myself. And worse yet, shame made it hard for me to reach out for help. I was paralyzed with shock, shame and “alarmed aloneness” – and this is key to understanding how we can change that inner voice.
Internalized shame, blame and the glue of alarmed aloneness are at the heart of our inner critic. When we address alarmed aloneness and the unconscious beliefs that are linked with it, we start on a true path of liberation. We turn barking dogs into purring pussy cats with very specific empathy driven “technology”.
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“Kristi has been instrumental in changing damaging self-talk and how I approach intimate relationships. Kristi helped me get clear on how to resource, how to "fill my cup" with specific strategies for when I am feeling especially stuck, anxious, or down. Together we worked on releasing trauma from my body with grounding exercises and TRE®…Finding my empathy has allowed not only my own self-healing, but has also helped me in challenging interpersonal situations. Situations, in the past, where I may have been defensive, I can now sit in a place of gratitude and understanding and have been able to affect way more change than if I had been accusatory or ungrounded.”
– Bowie Kalstad
— Bowie Kalstad
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